First things first, this article is not about toxic, abusive relationships.
We’re talking here about healthy relationships and ‘normal’ lovers’ fights, which to a large extent is to be naturally expected, and as this article tries to prove, needed.
Here are five reasons why…
* It proves you’re completely honest with each other *
There’s a very chance that if you exposed the whole of yourself to your partner, there will be one or two things about you that they will not be too happy about, hence the need for a change.
If you can voice your concern, stand up for your opinion, especially about something you’re not comfortable about, and argue with your partner about it, it proves that you’re honest enough and actually willing to make the relationship work.
On the other hand, you could always pretend at all times that all is fine when you are actually not cool with anything at all. And really, that’s just totally uncool.
* It proves you’re not intimidated by one another *
As opposed to an abusive relationship [which you should never stay in], fights in healthy relationships are symmetrical arguments where both partners are free to express their discontent at each other.
If you’re not afraid to let your partner know what they’re doing wrong, then it means you’re at a point where you both are not scared or intimidated by each other; and that, dear friend, is a really good place to be in your relationship.
* It helps you correct your flaws *
Not only does a fight help correct your own defects, it also helps you point out your partner’s faults and vice-versa, and the cycle of correcting each other and growing as people goes on.
* It creates good memories
Wondering how that works, right? *
Ok, picture this; several years down the line, you and your partner are now closer than ever, and you are at the best place to be in your relationship; but at first, it was not like that.
You were always arguing and correcting and ironing out things. Eventually, you get to perfectly understand each other, and then, you can look back at the old days and smile at how far you have come now.
*It keeps your ego at a reasonable level*
When all is said and done, what matters more than the fight itself is how you resolve it. If you can get off your high-horse, apologise to each other and effectively resolve serious arguments, then you can be sure that you’re in it for the long run and can make this relationship work against all odds.