7 things you must not do after a breakup


Heartbreaks are never good to anyone.

But of course, these things happen to even the best of us, especially after giving our best to a relationship, only to get dumped by that person we thought would never do us dirty.

When the ball drops, and wrecks our hearts, we often go through all the motions – from anger, to apologies even when we are the ones deserving to be begged for forgiveness, we cry, we rage but eventually, we accept it and move on.

However, between that moment when we hear the news and when we actually accept it, a lot of things happen in our heads, that might prompt us to do stupid things.

Yes, the mind suggests these things, but you must be careful not to give in.

So, what are those things to stay away from, no matter how tempting or appropriate they appear?

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1. Drink to stupor

Especially for guys, nothing will seem more logical than going to drink your sorrow away.

But sadly we all know the sorrow will not go. It’ll be there, hugging you in the chest when you wake up tomorrow morning. And of course, it’ll come with its friend – Mr. Hangover.

2. Shop till you drop

Yeah, I won’t sit here and teach anyone how to spend their money, but if you think blowing a hole in your pocket, buying those unnecessary shoes and bags will help, no they won’t! Save your money.

3. Social media story-telling

Doing that thread on Twitter and calling out the guy or babe that broke your heart will appeal to you so much.

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Sharing the story on Facebook will look like the best thing to do, but hey, don’t!

Those people you are sharing the story with are actually not your friends.

Some will most likely laugh and even shame you.

4. Reaching out to your ex

It won’t be easy, but you have to quit communicating with that person that broke your heart. You just have to block that communication by all means.

5. Stalk or bully them on social media

Leave their social media pages alone. You’ll only get yourself sadder.

That message to Twitter’s Subdelivery Man looks like the way out, and you probably should, but why not let it go?

That’s a better way to handle the situation. Anyone who treats you that bad does not even deserve you wasting any more time or energy on them.

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6. Shag the first person that offers

Sex will only offer temporary respite. [It’ll be worse than temporary if the guy is a one-minute man.]

Even if it’s bomb-sex or fire-works kisses, it’ll end and you’ll feel terrible afterwards. You’re not horny. You’re just sad. Sit somewhere and cry if you must. Don’t off pant for the first person that you see.

7.Try to pay them back

Don’t  release those nude pictures on Facebook. Don’t reveal their secrets on Twitter. You both must have been on some pretty intimate level for them to send those pictures and and share those secrets with you.

Preserve that sweet memory. You deserve to take at least something good from the heartbreak.